Eat Pussy Like a Pro With These Oral Sex Tips

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Eating out, licking out, cunnilingus, oral sex: whatever you prefer to call it, eating pussy rocks. Oral sex is widely known as the most reliable way to give a person with a vulva the big O. Studies consistently show that the vast majority of vulva-owners require clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, and oral sex puts the clit front and center. This is just science, friends.

The issue? So many people don’t know what the heck they are doing down there. Then there’s the fact that the clit often gets ignored in mainstream penetration-focused pornography. So, if you’re not quite sure how to eat pussy, it’s not entirely your fault. How could you possibly know how to do something you’ve never seen done properly before?

Luckily, there are plenty of ways to improve your oral sex technique. From incorporating toys to trying different positions, to using your tongue in unique ways, we have all the expert-approved information you need to up your game. These are the best oral sex tips for the next time you’re going down on your partner.

Don’t go straight for the clit.

Instead of diving head-first into someone’s pussy like an Olympic swimmer, opt for a seductive warm-up. Start with neck kisses, move down to their belly, inner thighs, and all around the vulva. Run your tongue around their nipples. You can even bring in a feather tickler to run all over their body and up and down the labia. Buy Fifty Shades of Grey Official Collection Feather Tickler from Naughty Me.

The anticipation can help bring you both into your bodies and feel grounded in this experience you’re sharing. No matter how casual a pussy eating encounter is, it deserves reverence and respect.

Keep it light to start.

Lighter is better when you start giving oral. The clitoral glans are super-sensitive, so be mindful of going too hard. Clitorises and vulvas usually require different degrees of firmness when it comes to touching and licking.

If you’re someone who masturbates with a firm grip on their penis, do not employ this same technique when giving oral sex. Good oral sex shouldn’t look like a hungry puppy eating their bowl of kibble, okay? You want to gently tease their clit lightly so it feels like they’ve stepped off a magical cloud into a hot Icelandic spring. Go in too hard and fast, and you may feel her flinch or yelp, so go easy! When you start lighter, you can build up the pressure as her arousal builds, but if in doubt, always go lighter first.

Use your flat tongue and head for added pressure.

Use the flat of your tongue first, and move your head instead of your tongue. This creates a larger surface space, which feels better initially to most people. The key is to warm up the entire vulva area before going for the glans clitoris.

Stay down there as long as it takes.

One of the main things that stops women and vulva-owners from having orgasms during oral is the fear that they’re “taking too long” or being “selfish.” This means they’re going to need a lot of encouragement from you.

Let them know that you’ll be there for as long as it takes, that this is just about pleasure, and there is no pressure to come. That in itself can be enough to help a woman [or clit-owners] climax, paradoxically, as one thing that most women find a big mood killer is pressure from her partner to come.

Ask your partner what they want.

Showing interest in what brings your partner pleasure is a huge turn-on. Every person’s body is different, and people enjoy being stimulated in a variety of ways. Ask your partner what they want you to do to them. If they’re not sure, try touching them in different ways and encourage them to tell you what feels good.

It makes for some good dirty talk. The thing is, you’re not a mind-reader. Ask and then do exactly what they say. Following instructions shows you’re actively listening.

Use your fingers and get some toys.

Mouths are amazing, but they don’t need to be the only tool in your kit. Vibrators are a way to up the ante on the whole experience. Try running your tongue around the clitoris while you insert the toy into the vagina if your partner enjoys penetration. You can also use a vibrator to stimulate the anal opening and perineum while you use your tongue on the clitoris.

If you’ve never used a vibrator on someone before, ask them to show you how they like to use it on themselves. This is like a masterclass in how they like to come.

Use just the tip.

If your partner likes more targeted, pinpointed pleasure, get the tip of the tongue in your oral game. The tip of the tongue can apply more targeted pressure and movement, especially once a vulva-owner gets more aroused. Remember to pay attention to the tactile sensations of your tongue to make sure you’re licking the clit and not just all over the place. This is a more common problem than you’d realize.

Honestly, mindfulness during oral sex is probably the best tip you could ever receive. Pay attention to where your tongue ACTUALLY is on your partner’s body. And if you’re not sure if it’s working? ASK. Here are some examples of how to solicit oral sex feedback:

  • “Do you like when I touch you here?”
  • “Do you like when I do X with my tongue?”
  • “Would it be OK to put my fingers inside you?”
  • “Are you having a good time?”

Suck to finish.

Have you heard of the Satisfyer? This clitoral suction toy uses a combination of suction and air to circle the clitoris and simulate oral sex. Such toys are wildly popular—which is why it might be a good idea to mimic the sensation with your mouth.

To use your mouth, wrap your lips around the clit and suck on it, to form a good vacuum seal, and then lick the clit at the same time while you suck. This takes some practice to be able to pull off for a continuous amount of time but is worth it. It’s a good finishing move!

And if you want to bring in a sucking sex toy while you use your hands or tongue for a little penetration, more power to you!

Listen to their physical and verbal responses.

Pay attention to both verbal and physical cues. The things we do, rather than say, can be helpful guides to what someone is liking (or not liking). If your partner is pushing their vulva into your face and moaning, you can be pretty sure what you’re doing is working. If they’re pulling away or are lying there, dead silent, try something else. And once again, there is nothing unsexy about asking someone if what you’re doing feels good.

Enjoy yourself.

Cunnilingus is about your partner’s pleasure first, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself. There is nothing hotter than someone who absolutely loves eating pussy. In the same way that it’s so much hotter when you can tell that your partner actually enjoys giving a blowjob when you show that you enjoy it and it is genuine, the technique doesn’t matter as much.

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